Resilience is the all-round mental, emotional, and spiritual capacity to recover and overcome from difficulties.

Being resilient is often not on purpose.

Resilient people are strong enough to adapt and change.

Resilient people know who they are and accept themselves, both the good and the bad. 

Resilient people have a strong support network; family, friends, peers, work colleagues.

Resilient people are honest with themselves and others. They don’t sweep things under the carpet and pretend their way through life.

Resilient people also show courage.

Courage and resilience together is what makes us rise from any adversity. They show strength of character and a need for grit but we all have the potential to tap into when needed.

So how do we learn to be resilient – truth be told we don’t, quite often it is through experiencing trauma, grief, adversity that we find our true potential for resilience.


TIP 1 – Being aware of your own control of your happiness and wellbeing. According to scientific studies within PosPsych we have a 40% chance to be in control of our own happiness at any point in time. When we are going through a difficult time it can be a simple as making the choice to shower, go outside, to breathe that helps you to ‘get through’.

TIP 2 – Focus on your gratitude. Spent time each day listing three things that you are grateful for. Gratitude is a great way to broaden and build your positive emotions so that in spite of any trauma or pain you brain can recognise the positive which helps to build the happy hormones.

TIP 3 – Have a GROWTH mindset. Resilience is about knowing that we can make mistakes and learn from them in order to continue to grow.

TIP 4 – For true resilience we need GRIT. Resilience is about being able to bounce back from adversity by using it! Learn from the challenge! Passion + Perseverance = GRIT

TIP 5 – Self-care is key. And that doesn’t mean taking a spa day. To build your resilience, self care means learning to say ‘No’, setting boundaries, asking for help when you need it and being able to take a step back. Self-care is also about forgiving yourself so that you can continue to grow.


Choose an adverse time in your life. Think about the challenges that you faced. Think about what happened to you. Now I want you to REFRAME that story. Retell the story to show what happened FOR you and the resilience that you showed in order to grow and RISE!

NOW you need to celebrate that fact and remember to enjoy the journey!


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About the Author Louisa Herridge

Louisa is a solo mum, speaker, writer and survivor. Like the glorious Phoenix, she has risen from the ashes of debt, abuse and trauma; reborn in flames as the Blazing leader of the Mamas Ignited movement.

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